Shanghai Sex Blogger Scandal

For months over at the China Blog List, I noticed that one blog always seemed to get good play, perhaps because of its curiosity-inducing name, Sex and Shanghai, and its subtitle, “Western scoundrel in Shanghai tells all.” I visted the site once, and that was more than enough. The last thing I need to do with my time is read an expat’s sex diary in which he describes in occasionally graphic detail his sexploitation of willing Chinese girls, many his former students. (The writing is excellent and the blogger offers some keen insights into the Chinese psyche, but all of that gets lost in the unending stream of pornographic reminiscences.)

China is still a conservative country, and it shouldn’t surprise anyone that as this blog gained traction it would also gain controversy. So I read with great interest an account over at ESWN of how the Shanghai sex blog has been denounced by a Chinese blogger who’s also a psychology professor, leading to one of those famous Internet-generated “manhunts,” like the search for the deranged stiletto-heeled kitty killer.

I urge you to go over to ESWN and read Roland’s translation of the professor’s article calling for the foreigner’s scalp. The article is a bit hysterical (Roland does a good job pointing out a few of its inanities) but it’s a fun read. Sample:

This piece of garbage openly declared in this blog that he was only dallying with these female Chinese students. He said, “We don’t talk about love, we don’t talk about marriage, we don’t even talk about being together.” Once, he was even shameless enough to say, “I ‘m tired of her already. A cunt is a cunt. I keep her just so that I can play with her again.”

This piece of garbage’s favorite show is to use obscene and pornographic language to describe the bodies of Chinese women and how they made love. For example, “My dearest Tingting, you have a very good and beautiful body. I cannot stop thinking about your beautiful skin, your lovely, smooth and soft breasts, you sexy, smooth and fine waist, your sweet and pretty legs and arms … oh, of course, you are so pretty, so sexy and so perfect between your legs!”

This piece of garbage is very narcissistic. In his writing, all Chinese women will tell him abashedly before they take off their clothes in front of him for the first time: “My breasts are too small.” When he takes off his pants, all the Chinese women will say in awe: “Your dick is really big!” Even if she is a virgin and this is the first time, she will say that too.

When you’re done with that, you can go back to the Shanghai sexploitation blog and check out the blogger’s response to the article. (Lots of good comments there, too.)

Now that he’s being hunted, it’ll be interesting to see what happens next. Will he be physically assaulted? Thrown out of China? Or will he garner a lucrative book contract. Sex, after all, certainly does sell. Just check out his site meter, which, with all of this week’s publicity, soared from an average of about 500 readers a day to above 6,000.

Update: I see someone’s already set up a blog dedicated to uncovering the Shanghai Sex Maniac’s identity.


Richard Burger is the author of Behind the Red Door: Sex in China, an exploration of China's sexual revolution and its clash with traditional Chinese values.

The Discussion: 64 Comments


Do you have a link or can you tell me on which thread you found that icky post threatening foreign women with sexual violence?

August 30, 2006 @ 11:46 am | Comment


How many continents have chinese men conquored? How many millions of native americans and south east asians have chinese men killed?

How many wars have chinese spies started?

How much profit has China derived from forcing the opium trade upon Britain?

How many non-chinese people have chinese men deemed genetically inferior and have enslaved?

How many times has China spoken about freedom, truth, democracy, and at the same time condoned slavery, colonialism, torture, war from within its own society.

Western men shifting the focus of blame, racism and immorality upon others is absurdly hypocritical. It’s like accusing Islam of facism despite invading and bombing other countries who have not posed a threat.

While that chinese professor may be naive and clumsy in his attempts to get the dickwad rogue with the blog, they are equally blameworthy.

While that dickwad was uncommon in his frank and publically boastful comments his true feelings towards asians, people like him are actually a common type of man who does cause alot of resentment and justifiable anger.

“You can bring a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” So even if a dickwad like the sexblogger visits asia, it seems like he’ll never understand the people or the underlying customs and social norms — due to his own inflated ego, and his disdain for trying to understand the perspectives another people.

When asians visit the west, they don’t act like they own the place and force everyone around to them to change to their desires. — And if they are racist, they don’t go on a screw fest, thinking “where da white bitches at?”

And they don’t as often disrespect the people and the laws, thinking they are above everyone else, acting like rowdy brats with “what happens in Asia, stays in Asia” attitudes. — Just because they are foreigners with special priviledges and lighter treatment by law enforcement.

August 30, 2006 @ 1:09 pm | Comment

“While that chinese professor may be naive and clumsy in his attempts to get the dickwad rogue with the blog, they are equally blameworthy.”

Whoops… meant to write that “they are NOT equally blameworthy.”

BTW, I do not mean say that all white men are bad, but indeed there are too many self-centered, racist brats out there with a disrespect towards asian men, asian culture, and an asian female fetish.

The negative attitude towards it should be easily understood.

August 30, 2006 @ 1:14 pm | Comment

The lao wai is just testing water in China, something he couldn’t (perhaps not charming enough to his own kind with just the English language skill) in his own country. The game he plays could happen anywhere. The same story can be traced back to ancient chinese history. What he is doing is nothing new. It takes two to tangle. Who is to judge the lao wai at fault but not those chinese girls who willingly participated in the game?

If there is a moral to this story, those who hurt in the game need to learn to better protect themselves from another lao wai. Besides this, I don’t see any more to the story. Now if you elevate this story to a patriotic level, that is a bit much.

August 30, 2006 @ 3:27 pm | Comment

OK, I understood it. Even if a Chinese is calling for a witchhunt, hazarding with the wellbeing of bystanders and enflaming xenophobic and racist emotions this is not so bad because he is still the victim of hundrets of years of imperialism. Right?

August 31, 2006 @ 1:25 am | Comment

just to make myself clear. I said it before, I think this sex-blogger is disgusting, he is chauvinistic and if you want, call him racist too. But the professor is racist for sure. And he has an agend on his own which becomes clear when you read his blog. For him all foreigners are bounders, he makes this point quite clear.
Such a witchhunt, he is calling for, can easily go out of hand and then it can becomes dangerous.

August 31, 2006 @ 2:36 am | Comment

It’s a sad thing, in general the Chinese are such hospitable and nice people.

From my point of view the first reason for so many Chinese to get infuriated is still the “unequal treaties” signed at the end of 19th century, its just like Europeans not being able to get over their dislike of Germans for the 1st and 2nd WW, but at least they don’t go hunting for Germans.

Another thing is the obvious discrepancy between the idea of the “rich” foreigner and the actual fact of this guys situation at home.
So this guy is a foreign teacher and Chinese universities/private schools are paying them a lot in comparison to what they are paying their local staff. What the Chinese see is this guy’s pay check in China (something in between 6000-12000 RMB a month, I guess, depending on this guy’s ingenuity), to ordinary Chinese that is a whole lot of money. That this same amount in Europe is barely subsistence level they don’t seem to quite grasp. When you add to that the huge amount of Chinese University grads that don’t find well-paying jobs+normal human jealousy for anybody who has something more+ a factor 1O because of the huge population of China+the growing disparity between the number of females and males in China (in Shanghai 6 f for 10 m according to a study in 2005) .

And you can figure out its pretty easy to form a mob for just about anything from hunting a guy who thinks with his dick to burning books to standing on one foot barechested with a silly hat on in the middle of the winter .

I think this incident also very well explains the huge fear of the Chinese government for any kind of criticism and their sometimes harsh methods of repression. If this one guy can spark so much attention for blogging his personal irresponsible behaviour, how much more so the people in power.

The longer I am following what is going on in China the more my respect for those in high and visible places in China, they have to be extremely outstanding figures because next to taking tough decisions they also have to keep a majority happy and keep the economy going. With all these people in one country, damn, I don’t want their job.

Of course their always is room for improvement, but aren’t they doing an outstanding job, especially in view of this fairly small incident and the huge reactions?

The guy who wrote the shit clearly has not been that long in China otherwise he would have never started that blog. Maybe he was inspired by the Chinese girls that rose to fame writing similar stuff and maybe he was unaware of the huge criticism they even got from their fellow countrymen.
If he would have been in China long enough he would have known that hurting the Chinese national pride is the worst offense. After all you are a guest to the Chinese people and guests should be grateful and not go slander their hosts. And its definately slander to insult and abuse “innocent” Chinese girls/women.
He also clearly is not a gentleman since “kiss and don’t tell” doesn’t seem to be his strongpoint.

As to the University professor who is inciting the masses. All people have their demagogues. This is just one, but in a way what he is doing is even more stupid, if this spirals out of control, guess what is going to suffer first, yes, the economy. Coz if the Chinese really would start attacking foreign men indiscriminately, the foreign men who are currently investing and turning out 70% of all chinese exports will be investing their money elsewhere, this leads to depression which in turn leads to even more unhappy masses. The government of China does not want that, so they are going to have to sacrifice somebody publicly to apease the angry foreigners. Who better to sacrifice than the professor who incited the masses???? This professor is toying with his own life here and he hasn’t even masked his personality, like the blogger did.

This might all seem far fetched, but then again who would have thought that a mere corporal in the German army would once set the whole world in flames???

August 31, 2006 @ 7:40 am | Comment

Ok, I’m an English English Teacher and my (Chinese) wife pointed me towards this story.

That Chinese professor is just a blowhard. We all know the type.

One things right though. This teacher should be grabbed by other foreigners, taken to the airport and put on the first plane home.

Messing with your own students (even former ones) is Grade-A stupid. Messing with your own students (even former ones) and then posting a blog about it just blows through Grade-A stupidity to a whole new level.

Foreigners as a group should police themselves and this moron has hurt all of us. We’ll all have to deal with the looks, the gossip and the reduced income.

Getting this moron OUT should be Shanghai’s first priority

August 31, 2006 @ 7:45 am | Comment

Blah, respect has to be earned. It is not a right. Your country’s leaders and many of your people do not respect even the most basic of human rights. When criticism is leveled at those people, unless you are one of them, I find it amazing that you would hind behind some cultural or social mumbo jumbo. Basic human rights are universal and those that deny them deny human nature.

Usagi, wouldn’t it be wonderful if the greedy loawai who want nothing more than to exploit cheap labor and turn out the trash that passes for product were forced to turn elsewhere? Then Chinese leaders would actually have to get off their collective fat, lazy asses and actually do something for their people.

Terry, the problem is that in a closed society no one is equipped to be able to tell fact from fantasy. The internet is far from being a reliable source of critical information. Any group of people who decide to act decisively based solely on information gleaned from the web are behaving in a rash manner.

Blah, China has enslaved or murdered millions of its own people following a common thug’s wishes. China continues to occupy Tibet, impose its language on Xinjian and throws its self-perceived weight around the Security Council like a bully. China treats it own citizens like slaves who nothing more than cheap labor who can be replaced at the drop of a hat. I am personally sick of the nationalistic, patriotic arguments attemp to cover up or dodge these issues. They only serve to point out the lack of access to information and the inability to form an accurate world view as a result of a society based upon ignorance and propaganda.

August 31, 2006 @ 8:54 am | Comment

Remember, one (small) reason for the student protests in Beijing in 1986 and 1989 because the Chinese men were angry at African exchange students for “stealing their women”. I think they mobbed the African students’ dorm and tried to break down the door.

A lot of Asian American guys resent white guys for “stealing their women” too. I heard such things when I was at university in Boston.

This professor’s outrage is so old. Only he has the internet. And access to millions of like-minded angry Chinese men.

At the heart of it is misogyny, I think. Chinese women are either poor stupid naive innocents who go around getting deceived and “stolen” by flashy foreign men. Or else they’re poor stupid sluts who allow foreign men to make fools of them. God forbid the idea that Chinese women have minds (or libidos!) of their own. Oh no, they must be coddled and hoarded exclusively for Chinese men, for their own good of course.

Not that the pathetic frat boy Brit doesn’t deserve a good kicking. But if anyone’s going to do it, it ought to be all his ex-girlfriends. I’m sure they can fend for themselves just fine.

August 31, 2006 @ 3:28 pm | Comment

Entirely off-topic, but your political cartoons are awesome, kea.

August 31, 2006 @ 4:02 pm | Comment

Thanks! I try.

August 31, 2006 @ 5:36 pm | Comment

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August 31, 2006 @ 6:55 pm | Comment

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